Where we are now matters.
One of the hardest things I've had to do in my life (and I've done several really difficult things) was getting really truthful with myself about where I was in my life. Where my decisions have led me. My decisions in how I took care of myself, what I believed in and why any of it really mattered. What I realized is that it was pretty easy for me to gloss over the facts in my life, it was easier to "look on the bright side" of things then really look at the reality of the situations I had gotten myself into. The only thing that matters is here and now. The facts, the truth in regards to taking care of my body, my faith in God and the universe, my connection to my children and the facts regarding how much time and intention I invest on a daily basis and why I strive for success in my business. It all comes from a sometimes harsh reality. I wasn't always married to the woman I love. I wasn't always confident in how I looked or felt. I wasn't always trusting in my faith. I wasn't always committed to serving my clients or learning the mind sets and skill sets I needed to grow and expand in my life. It wasn't and isn't easy to look at the facts of my life. Funny thing is that I realized with facts there are no emotions. A story may run in my head like "I don't have enough money in my accounts for the x,y &z" and emotionally it would keep me all tied up. Then I'd look at the facts, "I have X in my back account" no feelings, no stories, just the truth of my reality in this moment. That shift if perspective freed me up to actually have space and energy in my head to create more of what ever I wanted.
Your reality it your gift. It is your present. It is unique to you and its the foundation to build from. When my foundation was ruins I focused on the structural bricks, when it was strong I continued to work on the structural bricks. Thats the secret so many fail to realize and what I was unaware of most of my life. No matter where I am, no matter where others are, it's the small things that matter. Once I cleared myself of the guilt and shame, the story that "everything was ok" and was really truthful of where I was Physically, Emotionally, Financially could I really focus on building the relationships that mattered in my life and then had the energy, passion and purpose to build a strong foundation to my kingdom.
Consider getting honest with yourself, list out the facts around your life:
How do you feel physically, how are you treating your body?
What's your relationship with God, do you believe in an energy of some sort beyond yourself?
Do you consider your intentions when communicating with your wife, girlfriend, baby momma, children?
Do you work passionately with purpose everyday toward building your legacy?
Write your answers down and feel how freeing it is to remove yourself from the stories when you just have the facts of your reality in front of you. It will be clear to you as it was for me where the things were that I needed to work on. Even when my pages are full, it's nice because I can see it rather than trying to keep it organized in my head alone!